Communication Disorder

The shadow of a group of young people talking.

We are living in a world that is suffering from a communication disorder. 

This fast-paced hectic lifestyle that we are living is taking its toll on our physical and mental well-being. Everyone is exhausted in this fast-paced world, young people and adult alike. Everyone is struggling, regardless of their age and generation. 

We are taught to hold our feelings in for the sake of being understanding and considerate of others. And so we keep enduring, and lock our feelings in. We don't want to be a burden. We don't want to get hurt by the judgemental words of insincere people. We don't want to be labelled as ‘whiny’. Sometimes, we silence ourselves for the sake of peace in the household or the workplace, forgetting our own inner turmoil.

But once we reach the breaking point, we can’t hold it in anymore. We explode. We lash out and start taking our anger out on someone or everyone. We say things like “I hate this world. I hate everything. Nobody ever understands my struggle, nobody cares to see things from my point of view. They don't even try to recognize my feelings.”

Most of the time, this kind of behavior results in fights and fall outs, and we become target of hate because we couldn’t control ourselves and couldn’t keep our emotions in check. Relationships fall apart.

A group of people exist who don't usually lash out and endure everything silently. People appreciate them, but their pain goes unnoticed. They cry on pillows and try real hard to put on a mask, to suppress their emotions. Negative emotions pile up and they start rotting inside, and can turn into something toxic.  

I personally think that lashing out on someone because you are struggling is unhealthy for both parties. Humans should never be treated as each other’s punching bag, regardless of situation. Then again, I kind of understand why they do that. Because they don't have any other way to communicate their feelings. Because they don't have room for expressing their feelings otherwise. 

We don't have the heart to make an effort to understand other people because our struggles aren’t heard. It’s like a paradox, a toxic cycle we need to break out of. 

Today, we need to create a safe place to communicate our feelings in a healthy way. We need room for listening to people’s stories without our judgemental mindset clouding out perspective. We need to find a way out of this communication disorder.

This UNICEF video portrays the communication problem I talked about so well.